It is this heartbreak that comes suddenly only when you are in love and you think you are doing well with her.
To be honest, it is very painful.
Girls tend to hold it in without saying anything, and then suddenly say, “I’m sorry. I cannot be with you anymore.” She was so in love with me until yesterday, why? Why does it change? I was not prepared for it yet, so it is tough. Unfortunately, I feel that men will never be able to know all about women.
I think that after a certain amount of time in a romantic relationship, one of us may lose interest in the other, or the fights become so bad that we can’t stand it anymore and have to break up. After that, even a strong man may not even feel like eating his favorite meal without breaking his heart, and his mind may be dead for a day and he may be in a state of lethargy. Of course, there is no way he can put any effort into his work. He is in a state of blankness and absentmindedness.
In the longest case, it can last from one to three months, and sometimes even six months, depending on the person. Men, surprisingly, are unable to forget, and they always think about her for a long time, sometimes even now. I am ashamed to admit that I once even sang a song to my ex, hoping she would come back to me. Of course, she ignored me and left. I thought this is what it means to break down crying.
There is no way to heal a broken heart immediately after a breakup, and it takes time, but I would like to share with you the best ways you can do at that time to somehow make your feelings a little more positive.
This article is written for:
- You have just had your heart broken and it is hard.
- You can’t seem to get over the person you love.
- Those who are in love and are afraid of being rejected.
- Girls who want to know how guys feel after a heartbreak.
This article is for those who want to know how a man feels after a heartbreak.
First of all, why is it so painful? I think that by knowing this clearly, the pain can be alleviated a little. The reasons for the pain are as follows;
- You feel as if your existence is denied.
It is quite painful and hard because you feel as if your existence itself is denied and you inevitably think that you are a worthless person.
- You feel that she is the only one for you anymore.
She was my destiny. After a heartbreak, I always think that I can’t find anyone else to have feelings of love for any more than her. When you are in a grueling relationship, you are inevitably linear and narrow-minded. There are so many other girls out there besides her, but I feel that I will never find another girl that I can love any more.
- All the time you’ve spent so far is gone overnight.
A sense of loss is created when a relationship that has been built up until now is lost in an instant, without knowing why. Especially when the person says, “I’m sorry, I cannot love you anymore,” and then doesn’t respond and then eventually ghosted. If you don’t hear back from them, you may ask yourself, “Why? Did I do something wrong with them? What has all this time been about? It makes you feel empty.
- Memories come back. And for some reason, only pleasant memories come back.
This is really strange, because there must have been many bad memories, but only the good ones with her come back to mine. It is only after you have calmed down that you will be able to realize that you did not get along with her in this way.
- Tracking her with your cell phone even though you know in your head that you shouldn’t
Even though you know you shouldn’t do it, you look at social networking sites like Facebook and Instagram again and again to feel even sadder and harder. It’s hell to see her expressions and pictures of her laughing with other guys. You can’t get a response from her anymore and there is nothing you can do about it, but you wonder if you should message her or not, and you look at old emails to see if you were at fault in our past communication, and you are even more overcome with sadness again.
The thoughts immediately after a heartbreak are the peak of negative thinking, so no matter what you do, all you can think is, “This sucks…”
I know I remember that Only at such a time, I started thinking, “Can’t I get back together with my girlfriend who just dumped me somehow? I thought about it all the time in my head, and after I did stupid like unnecessary things (called her), of course no responding, she shuts me down, and finally that night I looked back at the memory of her and cried, drunk alcohol (binge drinking), and couldn’t sleep at all. I was wondering if I should contact her again to see if she will still return my phone calls. My head was full of her and I was completely trapped.
People already know that you can’t help it anymore, but you are seriously thinking that maybe you and she can reconcile somehow. The reason why you are really thinking, “Maybe I can make her up again somehow, even though there is nothing I can do about it,” is because their brains are dominated by the good memories that I mentioned earlier, and importantly they are blind to reality. The women, however, are too cold about that. Once they have made up their minds, they will not change their minds.
The only thing men can do here is to give up once and for all.
But that’s not easy to do. If we could do that, no one would have a hard time.
However, one thing is for sure: If you have just been rejected, your self-esteem may be in tatters, but your value has not decreased at all you know that. You feel that way because you feel like a failure. When you feel like a failure, your testosterone levels drop, and so because of those negative feelings come up, your self-esteem goes down and you deny yourself and hate yourself. So it is the effect of hormonal balance and you are a wonderful person who really loved her. So it is okay bro.
To realize that for yourself, you need to do is:
- stop self-denial.
Stop denying yourself. “What did I do wrong?” “Why don’t they love me?” “Did I get dumped because I’m a hopeless case?” “Did she get another guy?”
First of all, you have to let go of those evil thoughts that pop into your brain. If you have just been dumped, you are emotionally unstable and unable to think calmly, so there is nothing you can do.
You will be fine. I know it’s really tough right now, but I’m going to keep going anyway until I calm down. It may not be an encounter that you will forget over time, so calm down once first.
- pat yourself on the back for really loving her.
For all the sadness and pain you felt, you loved her, and that alone is amazing. You will know more happiness if you loved her than if she loved you. To develop self-love, you have to have a broken heart to know it for the rest of your life. It is a good opportunity to learn to love yourself by being as kind to yourself as you were hurt.
- Pain makes a man stronger.
After all, what is so gratifying about a broken heart is that a man can never truly grow unless he overcomes this emotional pain. Although some people may dislike the idea of masculinity, it is a necessary part of our evolutionary process. A strong spirit and body can use the backlash that comes from this rejection to become stronger. Let us love our growth more wholeheartedly. To get over it, becoming stronger is the fastest way to heal our hearts.
[There are many ways to improve yourself]
- Cut your hair.
- Make yourself cleaner than ever done before. (Shave your nose and pubic hair regularly).
- Read more books.
- Start exercise or weight training.
- Stop masturbating.
- Get more passionate about your work.
- Correct your posture.
- Buy new clothes.
Self-improvement is the greatest way to recover from a broken heart.
What was really painful is a miracle that happened to make you grow even more. Don’t take it as a bad thing, but transform it into a good force. If you have been truly hurt by a love affair, you have learned to love someone with all your heart.
Whatever form that may take. When you do turn it toward yourself, this time, you will be able to love them back.
Men are inevitably vain and proud. But you don’t have to be a perfect man. Even if you make some mistakes, use them as a springboard to do what you can now and become a little cooler, so this heartbreak won’t be a bad thing, and you will be able to grow even more from now on.
Men who are afraid of being rejected should also keep trying and it is okay to fail. Even if you sink, it is worth it to be rejected. If you don’t get dumped and just give up, it is not worth it.
In fact, I didn’t know this for a long time before I got dumped. It is better to be rejected. A man who has never been dumped or had his heart broken will never know the pain and will never know the true joy of love or the essence of a woman.
What I can learn from my heartbreak is that I now know how I used to live my life spoiled by my girlfriend (or others) at the time and I want to be a muscular man. Before I was dumped, I didn’t do any exercises or muscle training, just sit and watch TV, worked just to do what I had to do because I thought it was good enough to have some money with non progress, and had no ambition to become more like her or to do this. There were many things that I finally realized what kind of man I wanted to be after being rejected. I think that realizing this is a huge plus in my life.
Breaking up with a girlfriend is such a hard time. This fact will never change, but I felt like I knew where I really wanted to be.
From now on, you will become a very nice man.
You will be reborn as a super nice guy who understands other people’s feelings. When times are tough, you can heal your wounds and gain confidence by using the law of reversal and putting your strength into self improvement. You will stop relying on someone else to make you happy. You will be able to create it by yourself. You will be able to believe in yourself. You are the hero of your life, and you will gain more experience and become cooler and cooler, and your best life will unfold.
That is why you lost your love.
Thinking of it that way, you will gradually calm down and think that you will be able to handle it. A lost love in the 30s for all sexes is unexpectedly tough. You are too old to know if there will be a next time, and you are worried about it. However, by keeping your mind positive, even if only a little, you will be able to make the most of it in your next relationship.
It is hard, but you will get over it.
There is a view that you can only see after you get over it. To see it together, let’s aim to be good men!
Thank you for reading.